She Said Yes… Now The Work Begins

The ring and a happy tearful YES! are only the beginning. Nope, not the beginning of a year’s worth of wedding planning… it’s the start of building a strong foundation for marriage. I’ve watching so many couples avoid awkward discussions about money, kids, in-laws or sex thinking once they were married, they’d figure it all out…. bad plan!

That time between Yes and I Do needs to be a season for digging deep… super deep… to learn everything you can about your future spouse. Not simply what will your signature cocktail be at the reception… or where and how to you spend the holidays… but getting super honest and transparent about things like finances, expectations for work/life/sex/in-laws/politics/religion/vacations. Now’s the time to get on the same page… or understand your differences and how you will mesh.

After you say I Do is not the time to realize your spouse has a gambling addiction or prefers no children over the brood you had been dreaming about. Engagement is perfect time to dig deep. The Engagement Wisdom jar is a great tool for prompting serious… and seriously needed conversations.